Address it now, or pay for it later

We all have stress in our life, and all of us have different ways of handling our stress. But what do we do when that stress becomes overwhelming? For many this would be a good time to seek counseling. More often that not however, we grit our teeth and say to ourselves, “You’re fine. Get over it.”.

Going to counseling can be scary. We fear being judged, our problems being belittled, or we are afraid of the stigma that going to counseling makes us appear weak or incapable. We encounter an issue and that familiar voice pops in our head and “shoulds” all over us. “You should be able to handle this.” “You shouldn’t make such a big deal of that.” “You should be stronger.” This shoulding makes us feel ashamed of ourselves and causes us to find ways to mask the shame. Ultimately, we don’t go to counseling because of the widely held belief that “counseling is for crazy people”.

Benefits of an Early Start:

Compounding Issues

Many people that come to my office show up after a series of smaller issues have compounded into larger issues. The belief before coming to counseling is that their issues just aren’t that big of a deal. Most of our issues start that way. For example, a couple may have a small argument about money they can’t resolve. This small argument goes unresolved and becomes a larger issue that causes resentment and anger in the relationship. Eventually these resentments become too much for the couple to manage and they call a counselor in crisis.

Counseling helps us learn to address life’s many obstacles as they come rather than waiting until they pile up. When we choose to ignore little frustrations, hurts, and stressors they often express themselves in ways that become more difficult to ignore such as addiction, depression, and anxiety. Learning to address our issues through skills learned in counseling can help us avoid greater pain in the future.


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